Three months of dating a guy may not seem like a long time, but for some of us, it’s the longest relationship we’ve ever had. So if you find yourself in that category, asking yourself, “Why can’t I seem to have a boyfriend longer than a few months?” then this article and (10 reasons) are for you!
1. You get excited by the idea of him
When you haven’t had a boyfriend for a while (or ever), you begin to romanticize the idea of a boyfriend. When you do this, you often view the guys you’re dating with rose-colored lenses. You blissfully ignore all the ways the two of you are incompatible. Eventually, the guy you’re dating realizes it and breaks up with you. You’re then left feeling dumbfounded because you (naively) believed you two were perfect for one another.
2. You’re unsure of what you want in the relationship
I’m imagining that scene in The Notebook where Ryan Gosling yells at Rachel McAdams repeatedly asking, “What do you want?!” I wish someone shouted this at me this when I was younger.
Sometimes we claim we want a relationship but haven’t thought through anything past that. What do you want out of the relationship? How much can you give? What do you prioritize in a relationship? When is it too much? While you don’t have to answer all these questions before meeting someone, you should be able to answer them within a few weeks of dating.