You might not understand how this is happening…how could you be in love with someone who mistreats you and emotionally abuses you? Even the strongest and most resilient people go through the struggle of enduring a toxic relationship. Despite how you may feel, there’s nothing for you to be ashamed of, and you shouldn’t feel like you have let yourself down.
1. Some patterns are difficult to break.
Even if they are bad for you. All of us tend to have some bad vices, but luckily we know how to break those habits. Whether we do it or not usually depends on how badly we feel we need those vices in our life. Toxic relationships often make you feel like you can’t survive without the other person- it’s almost akin to comfortable chaos. You tolerate it because it is a habit that you know and can work around.
2. You probably believe things will improve.
After all, this isn’t the same person you fell in love with, and if they can change into this then surely they can change back. Wrong, it doesn’t work that way. If someone has made the choice to be hurtful and mean to their partner, then they are doing so willingly and nothing you do or say will change their mind. At least not overnight. You might still cling to the idea that this will all work out in the end if you give it enough time, but what you are really doing is wasting your precious moments with someone who doesn’t care about you at all.
3. Hope blinds you.
So does love. You let the things that aren’t there blind you from what is right in front of your face. They say they love you, and you hope they mean it. Their actions never match their words, however, and you continue to push it aside…for hope and love. During all of this, you are diminishing your worth. Learn to appreciate yourself and walk away from people who use you.