You’re the problem. There’s no point in beating around the bush. You are the one who needs to change and make adjustments to improve your situation.
Consider this. You are constantly jumping from one relationship to another. You meet someone, you fall in love, you develop a routine, but then you start to grow apart and things eventually break down. You keep on repeating this process like a broken record and it’s taking a heavy toll on your heart and mind. And the worst part is that you feel lost. You don’t know what the problem is and so you don’t know how to fix it. You don’t understand why things keep on going wrong and so you’re just left to sit and wonder about how sad you are. You keep on playing the victim but you don’t really understand why. Your closest friends are telling you that you’re not the problem and that it’s all just a matter of bad luck. They keep telling you that you’re just dating the wrong people and that if you keep on trying, you’re eventually going to meet the person who is right for you. But they’re just being nice to you and they don’t want to hurt your feelings. This article doesn’t care about your feelings. This article wants to protect you from yourself and so here’s the truth: you are the problem. There’s no luck involved here at all.
1. You attract yourself to all the wrong kinds of partners.
You are always choosing to date the people who are wrong for you. It’s a deliberate choice that you make to only entertain those people who are actually really bad for you and all the potentially good partners always get ignored and unentertained.
2. You only look at the things that are good and you blind yourself to the bad.
Sometimes, your feelings can betray you. You might get your hopes up too high for a particular person or relationship and you end up blinding yourself to the reality of the situation. You will trick your mind into only acknowledging all of the good parts of the relationships even though there are so many red flags and bad signs that you need to pay attention to.
3. You fall in love with people who are unavailable to you.
Unavailability can manifest itself in many forms. It can be physical, mental, and emotional unavailability that we’re talking about here. For example, you might be dating someone who is physically unavailable because they’re too far away from you. You might be dating someone who is emotionally unavailable because they are in another relationship.