5. There’s never a perfect time or place for letting go of someone toxic.
A few years back, I have committed to the first, and last, romantic toxic relationship. We dated on-and-off for a year, and I finally hit my breaking point.
I wanted to wait a week till he’d return from his San Diego trip to end it in-person, but every hour that passed was an hour I was choosing to let myself suffer.
So I did the unthinkable: I texted him a breakup text in three short sentences. I told him I couldn’t do it anymore and said I’d write him a letter when I’m ready to explain myself, and wished him well.
I never wrote him that letter.
When you shatter a glass or cup, you don’t find yourself waiting to throw away the pieces. Personally, I won’t wait a second later to clean up the shatters. Why? Because I want to avoid the potential pain and danger it can cause me or my loved ones in the future.
When there’s someone in your life that no longer ‘works,’ why would you risk years or a lifetime for them to hurt you, or others around you?
Listen, I’m not saying to give up on someone that has potential to change and become a greater partner for you. I’m advising you to dispose of the ‘ones’ that bring toxic influences into your life.
If it doesn’t feel right to officially, “let go” that’s fine. However, compartmentalizing toxic people into a distant category is necessary to keep your energy safe. That way, you’ll have space in your heart to reserve the spark for the ‘one’ that is deserving of your perfect source of energy.